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Laura's
Story

Laura was in hospital for nine weeks.

Everyone’s story is different, but mine and my husband’s relationship with our daughter is not tarnished by our experiences.

During Laura’s nine week stay in hospital she had tests on her heart, kidneys and various other checks to see whether her OA/TOF was part of a syndrome like CHARGE or VACTERL.

Although there was nothing obvious to point to a syndrome for Laura, she had OA/TOF and hydrocephalus and was also struggling a bit with an open valve in her heart, so we were referred for genetic counselling.

Looking back now, the days have all blurred together – but some memories stand out. Going home for a night without my new baby was traumatic. 

Laura's Story
Laura

There was a regular round of doctors as we were under the TOF team, the neurosurgeons and the heart doctors. 

Eventually the valve in her heart closed, the neurosurgeons decided that she didn’t need a shunt for her hydrocephalus, and her oesophagus started to function. 

There were some lovely moments, ones that proved to be milestones during our time there. 

When Laura had her second swallow test it was decided to try her on feed by mouth. As I was keen to try and breastfeed her, we decided to try her on cup feeds. 

This is tricky, but she was greedy and quick to pick up the skill of drinking from the cup, even if we did spill more than she drank!

Her first actual breast feed was a wonderful moment for me, and I couldn’t believe that it worked so easily at eight weeks old. I think the
fact that the nurses had insisted she had a dummy to keep her suck reflex going really helped.

Going home was both exciting and scary. 

We were encouraged to try a trial night at home which, although I hardly slept a wink, was lovely. The next day we were discharged and all at home – but not quite for good.

The first year can prove a challenge.

At this point you are probably hoping that I am going to say that all is well once you’re all home, and that your OA/TOF child can hit all their milestones the same as most other children.Some children really do go home and nothing else troubles them, but that didn’t happen to us or to many of the OA/TOF families I have met over the years.There were many wonderful moments over Laura’s first five years, but I am so proud of the way she coped with the difficult times. We were at the hospital almost every other week for outpatient appointments, and we were back as inpatients too.I decided that I wasn’t able to go back to work. Feeding Laura wasn’t straightforward as she coughed, spluttered and choked so much that I didn’t feel comfortable leaving her with anyone else.

Our experience with TOFS

The TOFS organisation has been a big part of our lives both with the support and friendship they have given us and through our turn being part of the organisation. 

Both my husband and I have been part of the Council of Management and we have both enjoyed the opportunity to try and fundraise and to offer support and friendship to other TOF families.

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Gill Jackson, mother of Laura. You can read Gill’s full story in the TOF Book.

Laura

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